SAFETY NET

Pearl of the Week: Dance between the raindrops

My grandma used to say the pearl, in this life you need Mazel. Mazel means luck. Some have it, others not so much.

As said before, being a parent is knowing your greatest love and facing your biggest fears. Creating a firewall to shield your children in this world is a tough task and no matter how fail-safe you make it, it still will be penetrated.

Parents have the job of keeping the home front safe for the kids and preparing them to go out into the world, the external front.

Keep your home safe is your primary battlefield. So you educate yourself as to what you need to do to set up home base. Your home should always be a safe and sacred space for your children, although you may miss a spot in your child proofing.

Yet we cannot live on fear alone. Developing strong parental filters is a necessary survival skill. Remember to change out the filter as the “must do” list constantly changes. Take advice with a giant grain of salt as they are advising you from their experience and fears.

As the children leave our nest and head out into the world we pray, a lot. We trust our children and that we did our jobs in aiding the development of well rounded individuals with remarkable abilities to discern when danger lurks.

Out in the big bad world there are seems to be some common fears – “stranger danger, bullying, peer pressure and technology misuse.”

I talk to strangers every day. In fact I love meeting new people, waitress, airline attendant, old man at the deli. I love chatting with people as you never know who will open doors for you and open your heart. Some strangers eventually become part of my routine, like the guy at the gas station, post office, mailman, cashier.

Just like us, our children learn to trust his instincts and intuition about who to speak with and how to spot the wolves in sheep’s clothing. It’s a big wide world out there with people who will receive them lovingly and others stationed at the other side of the pendulum.

Can you let them go and trust their fate, destiny and guardian angels? Would Alice be the same if she never fell down the rabbit hole? She triumphed and learned some valuable life lessons along the way when you and I may have never let her near the Mad Hatter.

I hope I’m never too old and always remain a just a bit naïve enough to trust people. Instilling trust, confidence and an open line of communication and fostering their freedom and independence. They will dance between the raindrops! Knock on wood….

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