MIGHTY APHRODITE - M'S GEMS

Mighty Aphrodite - Mʼs Gems

How do we tap into our Inner Goddess? Did Aphrodite the Goddess of Love and Beauty change diapers all day? Did Helia, the Goddess of Sun have maple syrup leftover from breakfast on her crisp white shirt, on the day of a very important meeting? Did Artemis, the Goddess of the hunt, do five loads of laundry, cook dinner, bath 3 kids and cut pictures of animals out of a magazine to send into school for the next day?

Perhaps not, but deep down we all have an underlying *Samantha in us. (*character from Sex in the City) You know a sense of confidence, a sense of sexual entitlement, a sense of power.

So, should we all go out and buy ourselves some stiletto heels and a red bustier? No ladies, I said Sex Goddess not Mid Life Crisis Goddess. Dr. Zahava Israely was a delight, a true expert, just like the modern day Dr. Ruth...I am honored to share Dr. Zahavaʼs enlightening advice and allowing us to gain a bit of sexual perspective. (i just asked my husband if I should put the word little in front of bit and he said, “you never use the word little when talking about Sex”.)

Letʼs dive in and find our inner Goddess, we deserve it, god dammit!

We are not designed equally- Learning the biology of things is helpful, so here goes, and I quote Cynthia on this 10 second lesson. Men are linear, A to C, a straight path. Women are not linear, we have peaks and valleys and curves (thanks Cyn). Get it? We require a bit more navigation. I found a Dr. Ruth quote that I believe refers to this bit Oʼ info:
"Our way is not soft grass, itʼs a mountain path with lotʼs of rocks. But, it goes upwards forward, toward the sun." ~ Dr. Ruth Westheimer

Speak Up - Example: “Hey Buddy, I want my orgasm...you may be done, but Iʼm not done!” Easier said than done, but take a deep breath and tell your partner if he came to the party, then you should come too. (I got that from a SITC episode) Also, remember men donʼt like to ask for directions...so it is OK to be their GPS.

Atmosphere - Take a look at your sanctuary, your bedroom. Take out the laptops, the laundry piles,and the bags of clothing that need to go to charity. I will provide full disclosure here. I am guilty too. I woke up next to a naked Barbie doll this morning, her hair was a mess and i donʼt know how she got into my bed and Ken was nowhere to be found. Dim the lights, light some candles, put on some music, set the mood and if the room is relaxing, you too can relax.

Exercise Is Good For Sex - Besides the obvious benefits of feeling good and the endorphins we release when we exercise and building stamina and endurance (so buy your partner a gym membership this Father's Day), it is important during sex to be in mind, body and spirit. Ever go to bed thinking about the millions of things you need to do tomorrow? Exercising and/or meditation allows you to clear your mind. Your brain is kind of like a sex organ too and so if your head is not in the game your going to miss your home-run.

Add It To Your TO-DO List - Dr. Zahava explained how planning is a big part of it, just like if you were to be having a dinner party. So, if you are a to-do list person...put it on there and DO IT!

Date Night - Each unit needs alone time. We as individuals require solitude and we also require one-on-one with our kids, but please do not neglect the benefit of alone time with your partner.
Either hire a babysitter and go or grab a bottle of wine, the Ipod and hang out in the backyard. Just make sure you set up alone time and connect.

The C Spot - Not the G-Spot, yes the C-Spot. Make sure your partner understands the importance of compliments. The best advice on marriage and relationships my husband and I ever received was; Sex is to men, like talk is to women. Foreplay for women begins when the man walks through the door. Again, ladies, many of our partners Do compliment, make sure youʼre paying attention and accepting.

It is just as important to receive as it is to give - During Mother May I, we discussed how on Motherʼs day, it is important to allow our loved ones to honor us and for us to receive affection...same goes here. We often want to please our partner, but it is important to lay back and receive.

Educate yourself - One woman's pornographer is another woman's spiritual leader ~ Carrie, from SITC. Dr. Zahava discussed the benefit of movies. To clarify romantic movies not the hardcore stuff.

Here is WHAT NOT TO DO! - Never fake it! Donʼt think about the unfolded laundry in the dryer downstairs! Donʼt think about your unshaven legs. Actually, shave your legs...regularly...we are trying to be Goddessʼ here, so go get your sexy!

Whew...Big Sigh...Dr. Zahava, you make it sound so easy. You know the old joke; How do you get to Carnegie hall? PRACTICE - PRACTICE - PRACTICE!! Well, What are you waiting for? Your inner Goddess awaits.

Live life Orgasmically, hey, it's the new Organic.